Psst! Want to supercharge your sex life? We have the scoop on the bedroom essentials that will rock your world.(Bonus: You have most of them already!)

1. A Pillow

A well-placed pillow can help you get into new positions and add sexy variety to old favorites. Try tucking a pillow under your butt in missionary position. Or put it between your legs while spooning. Of course, it also works the traditional way: under your head.

2. A Vibrator

The question isn’t why get a vibrator; it’s why not? You can use one on your own to explore what feels good, or with your partner to add a new dimension to sex together. Women who use vibrators report higher levels of sexual satisfaction with their partners, increased libido, and easier orgasms (sounds good to us!). If you’re a newbie or connoisseur we suggest trying the Little Su™ – Tulip the vibrator for the woman who wants it all – a sleek and stylish dual-action vibrator that reaches out seamlessly to the most erogenous zones. Through her finely-tuned and body-oriented design, she promises maximum intensity with the minimum of fuss – it’s perfect to use alone or with a partner – so tantalizing you will receive  the most prolonged feelings of satisfaction, time and time again.

3. A Lube You Love

Not only does lube make everything glide more smoothly, it can also help make sex last longer (because you won’t dry out) and make it easier to try different positions. To find one, sample as many as you can – it’s a very personal thing, and the fun is in finding one that you love and your body loves.  Water-based lubes like Hot Pink which not only will it increase the sensitivity of your erogenous zones, but  give  all the extra slip and glide needed for a long night of activity – must have!

4. Just-for-fun Toys

Whether they’re tame (feather ticklers, whipped cream) or not so tame (fuzzy cuffs, whips), playful props add excitement to the mix. To see what tickles your fancy, take a field trip to an adult shop, or browse an online retailer like lustique.com .

5. A Great Sex Book

When it comes to sex, you just can’t know too much.  That’s why it helps to have a sex manual that covers the full gamut, from anatomy to vibrators. Read it over a glass of wine and use it as a conversation starter. Check out  101 Sex Positions: Steamy New Positions From Mild to Wild by Samantha Taylor (Ulysses Press). Packed with passion-igniting positions,  101 Sex Positions takes sex from predictable to over the top. Whether couples are looking to break out of their same position rut or take their bedroom repertoire to the next level, this guide showcases every position available from simple to advanced, intimate to kinky – need we say more?

6. Kegels

Kegel exercises tone and strengthen your pubococcygeal (PC) muscles, also known as your pelvic floor muscles. The stronger those muscles are, the stronger the intensity of orgasm, not just with a partner but by yourself. Exercising these muscles also promotes blood flow and lubrication, which leads to heightened desire and arousal. And you can squeeze your PCs during sex to add to his pleasure and yours — the squeezing action stimulates the hidden inner part of your clitoris. To do basic Kegels, squeeze as if you’re stopping the flow of urine, then release – you will be in Olympic form in no time!

7. A Playlist That Turns You On

Everyone knows that great music can set the tone for a romantic evening. The key is to find music that gets you in the mood, whether it’s a classical favorite, an upbeat dance mix, even that jam band that was so popular back in college. To avoid having to stop and play DJ mid-makeout, fill  your playlist with  sensual tunes,  put it on shuffle, and be sure to  load up your iPod with a playful playlist.

8. Sexy Lingerie

Just like putting on your running shoes gets you in the mood for jogging, wearing lingerie helps you look, feel, and think sexy. And it doesn’t have to be from Frederick’s of Hollywood to be arousing. Wear whatever makes you feel sexy and self-assured, whether it’s a cami and boy shorts, a satin gown and sexy heels, or a push-up bra and a thong. You can also use clothing to experiment with different roles: Do you want to be sweet? A vixen? An elegant goddess?  Find an outfit that speaks to a different part of yourself, and let it lead the way in the bedroom.

9. Erotica

Erotica can get you in the mood, keep you in the mood, and spark a lifetime of creative ideas to try out with your partner. And by “erotica” we mean any material that jump-starts your arousal and helps you plug into your fantasies — a sexy movie, an erotic story, an X-rated flick, even a good old-fashioned romance novel. We happen to fancy the oh so naughty films by Marc Dorcel – so decadent and very very erotic!

10. Honesty

You can’t slip it under your pillow or into your bedside drawer, but honesty might just be the most important tool of all. Anytime you withhold anything, it creates barriers in the bedroom -  we encourages couples to keep an open dialogue in and out of bed. Feeling shy? Get started by filling in the blanks of these useful phrases: “I’ve always wanted to ________.” “Have you ever thought about ___________?” “I’m not comfortable doing _____, but how about we try ____?” “I love it when you _____, but sometimes it’s a little too _______. I’d really love it if you ______ instead.” And, of course, the phrase no one can hear enough of: “You’re so good at __________, I’d love to have more!”

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